relations between personality types
okay. so i’m so tired this morning, but i managed to get to starbucks early. must mean i’m having a good day. i stayed up until 2:30am because i found this interesting site on how personalities interact with another. i’ve read the descriptions of the personalities, but never really found how "this" one acts with "that" one. it’s like you’re in a chemistry lab. you’ve got liquid A and you’ve got liquid B. you know what they individually are, but do you know how they react together when put into one beaker? find out how!
go here: http://www.socionics.com/rel/rel.htm enter your mbti type.
if you don’t know yours and your partner’s, go here to get your four letters: http://myra_m.blogs.friendster.com/myras_blog/2006/07/mbti.html
if you want the definition of your four letters go here: Type Descriptions
and enter your partner’s type (the type + type = relations) … this will give you how your personalities act together! really cool stuff. when you get it, located at the bottom are the different types of personalities. if you go to the first relations link (duality) and go all the way to the bottom, you will find the personality that best works with yours http://www.socionics.com/rel/dlt.htm . enter that into the thing that you used earlier (the type + type = relations) and read on.
if you want the definition of your four letters go here: Type Descriptions
i now found out why my S2BX loves me soooooooooooooooo much, but hates me sooooooooooooooooooo much at the same time. it’s because we have a benefactor and beneficiary relationship (enfp + entj = benefit) and i’m the benefactor. it’s funny too because it felt sooo right. it felt as if this relationship was planned from the beginning of time. but as he started climbing the management ladder, his need for control really kicked in. with my being so adaptive and falling into a situational depression, i tried to emulate him. does that make sense? it was so easy for me to become an entj from the outsider’s perspective. by the way, i’m an enfp!
although i’m not perfect, people perceived me to be living the almost perfect life. people… i used to share my 5-10-25-50 year plan! and i used to get laughed at and told that things don’t always happen as planned. i talked about economics and money management with people. from the outside, i looked like i had my shit together. even my close friends didn’t know how —–not really fucked up but…- —-how not put together my shit was… or is. only my current partner knows. not even my past boyfriends. i’m the person who always dreamed about the future, but never really made a reality out of that because i my dream was not …. tangible? is that the right word for it? i couldn’t put it down into words? maybe that’s it.
this is me: http://www.geocities.com/lifexplore/enfp.htm
i used to think that my life was "charmed". things just kinda fell on me and they were always good. i never wanted "more". if i got more, well that was great! in my 20’s and on, i was able to show an outside face of having confidence, having my shit together … etc. because i took business in school!
life is like a business. you set your main objectives … you analyze the market … you set up your 5-10-15… year goals, come up with the business plan to achieve those goals and you implement…. and of course, you assess your progress along the way. it might have help too that i’m not dumb (i used to get straight "A"s when i was young - well, until i went boy crazy … but that’s another post). i’m not the smartest, but i’m not dumb either.
i think my problem was that i never really had my main objectives down, i didn’t really analyze the market. things just came to me, i borrowed some other company’s business plan; i guess to achieve what i thought was my goal and i tried to the best of my ability to implement the plan (implementation is a weak point - work in progress - at my own pace type of thing) and now since last year, i started analyzing my situation.
since last year when i first thought that i was going through a mid-life crisis, i started to try to understand who i am. after all, without fully really knowing why i do things, why i feel a certain way, why i react a certain way… etc i will never get to feel fulfilled with whatever "just falls on my lap". now, i want to come up with my own objectives, i want to do my own market analysis, i want to come up with my own business plan and i —–with the help of my partner (implementation a weak point of mine remember?) —- will implement those plans, making changes and tweaking it along the way. i guess it easier said than done. because you then have to find your soul-mate.
well, the best relationship is a duality relationship. http://www.socionics.com/rel/dlt.htm you’re not ‘going against the grain’ so much. the other person understands you and feels where you are coming from.
it’s like … before we were ever born, we were one big blob in space and time. then, when we were born, the blob was cut in half. you became one person and the other half - your soul-mate - was born else where in the world. you don’t know where, but you spend your time knowing that they are there. if you think you’ve found that person, just look at your bellybuttons. one should be an iny (how do you spell that = in+ee) and the other person’s should be an outy (out+ee) our belly buttons are the last parts that were connected before we were separated from our soul-mates! lovely!
if you found that person, then you know what i mean. you feel like you are home and you can finally rest. you might question it at first. you’re thinking, but this person is not anything like me! s/he is introverted/extroverted … they might not even be the same race or god forbid that you don’t speak the same language! (this would suck ass though) but for some reason, you you kept seeing them and you happen to exchange words and spent some time together, you’ll have this curiosity about them. and you won’t be able to understand that curiosity. but you will want to understand because you never felt that way before. you feel … at home. you feel … at peace with this person. the more and more you talk with them and the more and more you hang out with them, the more they feel like a glove. you feel this contentedness in your soul. is that deep? and when you feel that, you will not want to let that person go. not because you NEED that person, but because you WANT that person to be with you.
you’ll want to share your deepest darkest secrets (most of it at least), you’ll feel understood finally. you won’t be scared to tell the other person everything. you’ll share with that other person not only because you know you can trust that person with your soul, but because you want that person to be part of you.
i understand now why there are so many divorces these days. it’s because people are longing and searching to find "home". they want to find that feeling - to find that home - so that they can rest their head on that person’s shoulder and close their eyes for awhile.
